This week’s set is inspired by a short piece of writing by Alain de Botton (founder of School of Life)
The idea of this set is not to demolish relationships in general, nor marriage, nor “love” per se. Each relationship is unique. People are free to decide how to live their lives, I respect that. But that is precisely why I am doing this set: freedom is what defines us as existential beings. And yet the pressure from society to lead a certain type of life is overwhelming. And that path, the one we are told to take, can’t lead to happiness, in my opinion. Conformity is spiritual suicide. As Alain de Botton said in his TED talk, ‘success’, yes, but let’s make sure that our idea of success is our own and not an erroneous one imposed from the exterior. I believe the same should be said about love.
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The whole idea of exitentialism is about making choices on how to live YOUR life. You can’t have everything, choices need to be made. Thinking that you can have everything is a mistake, thinking that you can be both career-oriented AND family-oriented, that you can the wife AND the mistress, that you can have both stability AND passion… all those fairytales need to be dispelled. There is no “right” choice or “wrong” choice, but choices do need to be made. If you don’t consciously make those choices for yourself, they will be made for you.